Mga bagay na importante sa buhay.

Haay, ang bilis talaga ng panahon.

Matatapos na si 2008. Time to welcome 2009! :)

Have a better LIFE but do not change the way it is really meant to be.

It’s been a while din, and now, were still on the roll struggling this second semester of our First year.
More quizzes to come,
More recitation to prepare for and

More pressure to encounter.

Pero hindi lang studies ang buhay. Maybe we are all busy sa paghahasa ng kaalaman sa course na kinuha naten, pero hindi lang naman un ang dapat nateng alagaan eh, because in life, there are 3 things we should look at with… these are: GOD, Family and Friends.

Why God?

Siguro naman alam natin lahat na WE ARE NOTHING WITHOUT HIM… and that’s it! Sabi ko nga sa isa kong comment sa blog ng kaibigan ko, “Maybe your friends know your problems alone, but God knows everything..” , na kahit na ipagsambulat pa natin ang problema natin sa iba, Siya pa rin ang nakakaalam kung gaano tayo nasasaktan o nasisiyahan sa buhay natin. Agree!? Hmmm.., At ska, sa studies naten, hindi ba’t mas naging malapit tau sa kanya nitong college cause we keep on praying na ipasa tau sa mga tests natin in our courses? Pero sana, kung gano tayu magdasal sa kanya para humingi ng pabor, dapat MAS marami ang dasal ng thanksgiving naten sa lahat ng blessings we are receiving from HIM.

God is an invisible soul.

All invisible soul always stays besides us.

Therefore, God always stays beside us.

Why Family?

From our psych class, we learned na ang pamilya ang sentro ng pagkatao naten – kung ano man tayo ngayon ay may epekto sa karanasan naten with our family, kaya don’t ever blame yourself with why you act that way, kase nasa foundation mo yan nung bata ka pa. Hindi rin naman tama na basta mo na lang hayaan ang mga problemang nararansan ninyo within ur family, kaya nga sabi ni Lilo ng Lilo and Stitch – “Ohana means family, Family means nobody gets left behind… or forgotten.” Dapat as a member of it, you must work out to overcome ALL trials that come in ur lives at dapat walang iwanan, at laging may suporta from each other.

Kung iniisip mo na “hayaan mo na sila… aus lang!, di bale ng puro problema kami ngayon, basta ang saken, makatpos ng studies at makapagbuo ng sarili kong pamilya” and promising na you wont make this problems happen again with the family your gonna live with.. I tell you… you wont be happy as you expect it. Alam mo kung baket?.. Kasi nakatatak na sa dugo mo na may maiiwan kang pamilya na kinalakihan mo at kung saan ka nabuo, at hindi mo matitiis na hindi sila balikan dahil sila ang UGAT ng iyong pagkatao. (very inspiring diba?! )

Why Friends?

Sa kabila ng lahat, hindi lang pamilya ang lagi mong kinakapitan at kinukuhaan ng lakas ng loob, kasi sa paglabas mo pa lang ng bahay, may mga taong mamemeet mo at makakasama mo sa ibat ibang activities sa labas – they are your friends. Sa college life naten, all of us will meet new people to live with, and hindi ganun kadali un sa mga taong first time na makaranas ng transferring to another school. (like me!) kaya ang tendency nila (or namen) is still to rely on the people you've known before, kase para sayo (samen), stable na ang trust na ibinibigay mo sa kanila compared to those people na your getting to know well pa. I guess it's normal (but im getting used to it). At saka, sa college, wala pa ata akong nakikilala na hindi kalianman nakikikopya ng assignment or even humingi lang ng tulong from their classmates. Kasi sabi nga, “sino pa bang magtutulungan, kundi tayo-tayo rin lang,.”. Without them, your totally half-dead.

Why is there no LOVELIFE?

(kase wala ako nun ! .. haha.. baka di lang ako makarelate.. JOKE!)

Syempre hindi na to mawawala sa kabataan natin ngaun. Pero let me tell you this, our age (16-19), mas normal ang walang GF/BF, kase according to studies DAW, ang age na nagrerange sa gantong mga age normally focuses on studies muna, and kung may relationship to form, it should be friends or just M.U. haha.. o diba.. kaya wag na magwori kung single. (Pero hindi din. :( haha kinontra sarili eh no? )

“Singleness does not mean having no one, rather its having close to everyone…”

Have fun with every minute of your life!

Give time and fairness on each of these factors..

And you’ll have a healthy life.

Minsan nang naging EMO si Nix

Ever wonder why do others hide their other eye by their hair? 

Because they want to hide the sadness they feel - without knowing that the others will be more curious about them. They want to see things in a one-eye direction, meaning, once they decide; they only consider the thing that they know is right, never giving chance to wrongness that may lead to suffering they might feel.

What about those checkered shoes and overprinted jacket? 

What you see is what you get. Their lives are not clear; there are spaces they want to be filled to feel completeness. And those printed jacket? It can be seen mostly white with those prints in it, right? Well, it is simple, like what the shoes show, their lives are complicated; there are so many problems in their lives that they can’t feel peace of mind anymore.

Those earrings and other face style are just the result of bearing those problems in their life. They don’t know what to do for that time, so they just show their feelings through those things. 

And lastly those tight pants they wear, they do feel being too much pressured by the things around them.

What do I always think when I hear the word EMO?

When I hear this word, many things come into my mind. Being Emo doesn’t always refer to the style a person would be. In addition to that, some of them will say that the strength of your Emo-ness depends on how you dress your Emo style, especially your hair. But I have observed that some people do not want Emo as their fashion in life. I wonder why…

When you are referring to someone as being emo, you are usually are stating that they are sensitive, or have a negative emotional personality. 

Emo truly is a type of music that started in the eighty’s and is rapidly moving back in its popularity. It’s a sub genre of punk music which has grown to be more popular then punk it’s self. Each and every day more and more emo bands are coming out. However, emo most commonly is referred to as a type of fashion. - http://www.emo-corner.com/

And I guess, people take this issue as non-sense talks, because they just become irritated of what an emo look like and how they live life – wanting death. Anyway, an emo person won’t care at all, right?.

Before I write this blog, I searched some data in some websites to find out how people really view on this EMO thing. Some people say that it’s a way for them to show their feelings, some say, it is a way of letting others know that they are cutting themselves – catching a glimpse of death. While other’s say, it is just a fashion style and have nothing intention at all. 

Maybe some will say, they are just using the word emo to explain their side that they are emotional.

I belong to the last statement. I am an EMO sometimes. Funny right?! (Better not continue if you’re not interested!) Some may laugh and say, they can’t see any emo-ness in me, is it because I don’t wear tight jeans, checkered shoes and shirts, or sometimes even a jacket or coat? Or is it because I don’t have any mark of cutting myself in my wrists? Or is it because I am always laughing as if I don’t bear any problem at all? Well I guess they’re wrong.

In my own perception on this word, I can say that all of us are Emo, I can say this because, in our personality, there can be negative and positive traits. On the positive side, these are the ways our friends are seeing about us when we are with them – the way we crack jokes, laugh out loud, etc. On the negative side, these are the things that make us think of the sad side of our life.

The moment we come to think of our present lives – either happy or sad – still, we become emotional. This is what I meant. Not all the times, we have to be happy and never face the darkness inside us. We all have our other sides, as the saying goes, right? I agree with this. It is just that, some of us will prefer to keep it on ourselves, (that may cause a higher risk of heart attack) which is wrong. All of us have problems to face. And the more we run away on those things; it will still be in our hearts.

“The more we feel all alone, the more we get emotional.”

One solution to this problem is having someone to talk, someone to listen and understand on what you feel. Because having someone beside you lessen the sadness and feeling of being alone. Everyone in this world was born to have a friend to be taken cared of. Your lucky if you don’t easily get emotional but what about the others around you. Some are just hiding from those smiles in their faces. And if you feel someone’s feeling like being alone, why not be the one to come and sit beside him and say, “Hey pal, I am here… :)”.

_nix_

Gaano nga ba kahalaga ang Kaibigan?

“No man is an island…” – isang popular na quotation para iprove na hindi kaya ng taong mabuhay ng walang kasama.

Hindi natin mapapatunayan ang sarili natin kung sino talaga tayu kung hindi dahil sa pagtingin ng iba sa atin. Hindi mabubuo ang pagkatao natin kung hindi dahil sa mga feedback na natatanggap natin sa mga nasa paligid. Naapektuhan nito ang ating kilos, nalalaman natin kung ano ang tama at ang mali, pati buong pagkatao ay apektado.

Ang pagiging kaibigan ay hindi basta-basta, ito’y may espesyal na dahilan – ito ang pagbibigay mo ng buo mong sarili para sa iba, dahil alam mong aalagaan nila ito at hindi pababayaan, palalaguin at huhubugin ayon sa nararapat.

Ngunit minsan, hindi rin nagiging tama ang paghubog na ito. Dahil may mga taong nandyan para impluwensyahan ka sa masamang bisyo at mga gawain. Kinokontrol nila ang isip mo, hanggang sa makatulad ka nila.

Hindi ako naniniwala na may mali sa pagpili ng mga kaibigan, nasa atin mismo ang desisyon kung paano tayo tatanggap ng impact mula sa iba. Tayo lamang ang nagpapaapekto sa mga ito dahil maaaring, gingusto mo ang mga maling gawain dahil gusto mo lamang magpakasaya at kalimutan ang problema, nang hindi man lang inaalala ang pwedeng maging epekto nito sa buhay mo.

Bawat isa sa atin ay may pagkakaiba ng ugali. May kanya-kanya kasi tayong pinanggalingan pamilyang ating kinalakihan. Pamilya ang pinakaunang factor sa pagkabuo ng ating pagkatao. Mapapansin natin na mas nagiging malapit sa isa’t isa ang dalawang taong halos nagkakapareho ng karansan sa pamilya. Ngunit madalas din naman, may mga taong hindi nagkakaintindihan ng nararamdaman dahil magkaiba sila ng mga ‘values’ na naituro sa kanila ng kanilang mga magulang.

"The purpose of friendship is not to have someone who might complete you, but to have someone whom you might share your incompleteness with…”

Hindi porket may mga kaibigan tayo, hahayaan na lang natin sila ang magdesisyon para satin at sila maghanap ng solusyon o ipabuhat sa kanila ang problema natin. Kahit naman sino, ayaw na may mamomroblema ngdahil lamang sa kanya.

Ang kaibigan kahit kalian ay hindi intensyon na ipahatid ang mensaheng:

“wag ka mag-alala, ako na ang bahala”,

dahil ang isang tunay na kaibigan, intensyon nyang sabihing :

“hayaan mo, tutulungan kita hanggang sa mawala yan..”

Nakita nyo ba ang pagkakaiba? Duon sa unang sentence, kung ating iisipin ng malalim, pinili na lamang nyang SIYA ang magbuhat ng problema natin para LANG MATAPOS NA..

Pero sa pangalawa, naipakita na handa syang tumulong sa kahit na anong paraan para mawala ang problema ng kaibigan kahit na anu pa mang consequence ang mangyari. Yan ang kaibigan.

“Making a hundred friends in a day is not a miracle; the miracle is to make a friend who stands by you for a hundred years.”

Maaaring marami nga tayong kaibigan, pero may isang taong laging nandyan para samahan ka sa lahat ng saya at lungkot, kahit na anupaman ang mangyari.

Hindi birong makahanap ng isang taong handa mong pagbigyan ng iyong tiwala. Tiwalang sa anumang lihim ang nababalot sa iyong pagkatao, maging problema man, karanasan, kasiyahan, takot at kalungkutan ay handa mong ibahagi sa taong ito ang malaking parte ng iyong pagkatao.

Dumarating sa panahon ng buhay ng tao na mapapahanap ka sa isang taong ito. Dahil habang dumaraan ang panahon ay dumarami rin ang hamon sa ating buhay. Kung may mga bagay man tayong kaya nating ma-overcome ng mag-isa, may mga bagay rin na kailangan natin ng isang taong handang tumabi sa iyo sa ulan man o araw. At sinuman ang taong ito’y tatawagin mong Matalik na Kaibigan.

Siya na makapagbibigay sa yo ng mga payo sa tuwing may problema ka.

Siya na handang magsakripisyo para sa ikasasaya mo.

Siyang nandyan para sumuporta sa lahat ng gagawin mong desisyon sa buhay.

Siya na magtatago ng lahat ng mga hinanakit at persepsyon mo sa buhay.

Siya na makakasama mo sa sayang nararamdaman mo.

At higit sa lahat, Siya na hindi kailanman aalis sa tabi mo, upang alagaan at palaguin ang “tunay” na IKAW, na hindi makakapagbago sa characteristics mo, bagkus makakapagpalago at mapalawak pa ang pagkilala mo sa iyong sarili.

Malaki ang papel na ginagampanan ng isang kaibigan sa ating pagkatao. Sila ang mga taong, isa sa mga rason kung bakit nabubuhay ka pa sa mundong ito.

Hayaan ninyong tapusin ko ang aking pagbabahagi sa isang magandang quotation na natanggap ko.

“Ang kahalagahan ng isang mabuting kaibigan, sa ating mga buhay ay tulad ng sa kahalagahan ng bawat tibok ng puso … Kahit na hindi nakikita, sila’y tahimik na sumusuporta sa ating mga buhay …”

_nix_

Session with 08s, the so-called Meeting

Date: October 17, 2008

Place: (Part 1) Camille’s Residence

Dumating na sa buhay naming Batch 2008 ng OLAA ang kauna-unahang sembreak sa college life namin. Kaya naman ang bawat isa sa 'min ay excited na magkita-kita ulet para makapagkwentuhan. Napagkasunduan na magkakaroon ng isang outing para magkasayahan ang lahat.

Part 1. Isang drinking session bago ang class reunion…

Hapon ng October 17 nang nagkausap ang magkakabarkada na magkaroon ng isang meeting para sa gagawing outing kinabukasan. Kaya naman agad na nagpunta ang iba para malaman ang mapag-uusapan.

Kasama ko sa pagpunta sa bahay nila ay si Regine, pero pagdating namin dun, si Jea, Arvhie at Camille pa lang ang nandun. Sabi nila, nagdodota daw muna ung iba habang naghihintay, hanggang sa dumating sina Mary at Patrick. Maya-maya, naisip namin na total wala pa naman ang iba, lalabas din muna kami para makapaglaro din ng Dota. Habang naglalakad, nakasalubong namin sina Grace at Mitz, papunta rin daw sila kina Camz. Hindi na kami masyado nakapagkwentuhan masyado kaya pumunta na kami sa Jeapels.

Sa Jeapels naman, nakita namin si Kathlene kasama ang kapatid nya, sabi nya hihintayin pa daw niya si Rain dahil susunduin sya dun. Kami naman ni Redge, naglaro na kami ng Dota, pero pagkatapos ng laban namin ng 1-on-1, hinamon kami ng kapatid ni Sotto ng isa pang laban, unfortunately, dalawa na nga kami, talo pa rin (haha..!). Hindi namin namalayan, nakadalawang oras na pala kaming naglalaro, kaya naman, nagmadali na kaming bumalik ulit kina Camz.

Pagdating namin dun, kelangan na pala umuwi ni Redge kasi gumagabi na, buti na lang nakahanap sya ng makakasama. Pagpasok ko sa loob, nagsimula na pala ang “meeting” – isang meeting na nahantong sa inuman… Kadalasan na nangyayari sa barkada na pag nagkakaramihan sa isang panahon, nagkakatuwaan na magkainuman habang nakikinig sa music lalo na ang mga RnBs kaya hindi na ako nagulat.

Hindi ko akalain na ganun pala kami karami. Nandun sina Archie, Erik, Djay, Sotto, Jea, Arvhie, sumunod din maya-maya si Louies. Andun din si Mitz pero hindi sya uminom at hindi rin nagtagal kasi gabi na masyado. Si Thea din, na sumama saken maghapunan ng siopao. Dumating din si Lucky, pati na si Patz at Ace. Kasama din ang laging bumubuo sa ming lahat na si Rain. Pati na ang mahilig tumawang si Bonn, pati si Ped. Andun din sina Tabor, Libardo at Fred. Nakita ko rin si GJ. Dumaan din si Alexz, pati si Redge, at si Kathlene din na napakalambing. At syempre si Grace, ang reyna ng inuman, (hehe..!) na hindi nagpigil sa paginom kaya naman tinopak na naman. At siyempre si Mary at si Camz.

Nitong time na to, dumating din from Lucena si Mea, kase pinilit ko syang sumama sa outing the day after that. Kaya pumunta ako sa may Janken para salubungin siya. Medyo nakapagkwentuhan lang kami ng konti, kaze gabi na. Medyo pagod pa nga sya kasi kakagaling lang sa practice taz uwi agad. Nung dumating na ung tatay nya, nagbye na ako at sabi ko sumama sya kinabukasan. Tapos bumalik na ulit ako sa bahay nila Camz para makisaya.

Nahuli man kami ng konti, at naabutan ko nga na may mga nakahiga na dahil sa hilo, at may isang nagwawala na – si camz lang ang nakapagpahinahon, may natira pa naming Brandy para sa mga di pa tinatamaan masyado at sa mga bagong dating. Marami ring napagkwentuhan ang lahat at siyempre ang mga balak para sa outing.

Wala sana itong session na to kung hindi dahil kay Camz. Pinili nya na magpaiwan dito, para sa mga gusto syang makasama at para rin makita niya si Mary. Sobrang pagod nitong babaeng to, bawat may nabili, kelangan nyang itigil ang ginagawa niya para lang dun. Hindi na nga ata sya nakakain ng hapunan sa sobrang asikaso. Siya rin ang nagtimpla ng mga kape ng mga nahihilo at sa mga may gusto. Siya pa ang magaasikaso kapag may nahihilo. Hirap man si Camz pero, hindi sya tumitigil o nagrereklamo man lang. Basta tumahimik lang daw kami kasi may mga tao pa sa kabilang bahay na natutulog na. Sabi ko nga, ang laking kaibahan ng mangyayari kung wala si Camz.

Bago pa mag-alas dose ng gabi, may mga nakitulog na rin sa bahay nila Camz. Umuwi na rin ang iba para makapahinga muna bago ang outing bukas kasi nga overnyt.

Abangan sa isa pang blog ang mismong nangyari sa reunion ng klase…



“…ang laking kakulangan kung wala si Camz. “



_nix_

Me, My Girl and My Buddy.

“I want your bright smiles back, both of you...”, said Me.



Me is a simple and kind guy in nature. He is more of a brainy type than being sports-oriented, he loves to be in groups and he wants his friends to laugh especially when it is because of his crazy jokes. He is considered as one of the “class clowns” in the class. But when it comes to studies, Me is really serious because he has a goal in life that he would like to attain. He always try to balance things, especially in studying and bonding with his friends. But sometimes, he can’t go out with his friends because he choses his family over them always. Me is getting used to this kind of situation. These days, he can bond with his friends, balance his studies and have time with his family.

My Girl is a slightly kikay type who loves texting, you would see her texting most of the time – proves how sweet she is to anyone. She has a great smile that capture every guy’s heart especially Me’s. My Girl is a very caring person, and she would make friends with anyone. She loves also to laugh and bond with her friends, and mostly be the one to start the party. She would be there if someone needs her but only if she can handle it. She is really good in dancing and can perform well in class. Maybe sometimes, you can see her sad, but she knows that she can overcome it by her own. That’s My Girl!

My Buddy, a very gentlemen guy of the batch, he is a very strong person despite many trials in his life. He perform well in class, good in drawing and is a good son. He is a silent-type person in a crowd, but shares himself to others when in small groups. My Buddy is very serious when it comes to love life, studies, and family. He can even break into tears, but he can manage by himself like My Girl does. He is talented in singing and playing the guitar. He may be quiet, but he is sweet and caring to anyone.

For years, me and My Girl became close friends, they can be seen together exchanging ideas and stories about their lives. Me always wants to be there for My Girl, but My Girl have many friends to talk with also, and so Me can’t have much time for My Girl. Sometimes, me will say deep things about their relationship, while My Girl will just treat those things as jokes. Me would say he loves her, but My Girl would answer “as a friend” then laugh…, while Me breaking into pieces.

Until, the time came, during their matured age, being drunk and in an uncontrollable situation, Me told My Girl that everything he said about his love for My Girl were not jokes, that they were all true. 

Suddenly, My Girl was shocked and puzzled. And with confusion, she left Me alone and leave. Me really felt sad of what had happened.

Through thick and thin, My Buddy is the one Me always calls for help, even about their greatest secrets -- they knew each other really well. They are always there for each other. Some nights, they are sharing ideas about life on Me’s house. They will also talk about their past experiences as well as their classmates. Me always supports My Buddy in everything he does, especially when it comes to problems, me is always there for him. My Buddy always let Me become a better person, he would even teach new things for Me, letting me realize that life is not just studying, rather, we should have time to let ourselves be happy. In return, Me will give advices to My Buddy about his love life, studies and family. It is such a give and take pattern. They are became really best of friends.

My Buddy and My Girl were good friends during their high school days. Even now, they are always together almost every week. When they we’re in high school, My Buddy tried to court My Girl, but he failed because My Girl have so many suitors other than him. My Buddy’s attention to My Girl vanished and was given to another girl. My Buddy and the other girl came into a relationship, but when it didn’t work out, they separated. Then after some months, My Buddy’s love for My Girl came back and this time, My Girl realized that he already fell in love with My Buddy. T_T .

My Buddy being in love with My Girl was not really easy for me to accept. Even before My Buddy planned to court My Girl, me wants My Girl to keep away from My Buddy. Me would hide some text messages and anything that will connect the two of them. But, until the time came, Me cannot do anything but to let the his two special persons go ahead. Anyway, Me realized that he is not even an inch of My Buddy’s character, that will make girls like My Girl fell in love with. And realizing that, My Girl will never fall for Me because he is weak and ‘torpe’. For this reasons, he let the two of them go on with their affair.

Hearing those reasons hindered My Buddy’s decision to continue courting My Girl, My Buddy realized that Me was a good friend to him, and that, he will not let go of their friendship just because of a girl.

Time passed by, My Girl started to become sad, he would stop texting some time and think of My Buddy. There are days that Me can’t see the shine of her smile. The same was happening to My Buddy; he became moody and sometimes stare at nothing and thinking of other things. His voice lowers when he speaks.

Me became bothered about the two. He became shy on talking to My Girl for Me knew that he was one of the reasons. He can’t even express himself to My Buddy because My Buddy is sad and absent-minded.

Who’s gonna be happy among me, My Girl, and My Buddy?

Who should let go among the three?

And who is willing to sacrifice and suffer?

With these questions, Me decided to be the one. Me told My Girl how much he loveD her, and how much he cares. He even told My Girl that he can’t give his care and love if she will always be sad. And now, Me is letting go of her to make her happy and see those smile from her face. When Me declared those words, a glimpse of My Girl’s smile flashed on her face. Those brightness from My Girl let Me stand on his decision even knowing that he will be hurt.

He said the same on My Buddy. He also added that, he is missing the Old bestfriend he had before. He is missing those times when My Buddy is asking for advices, sharing jokes, showing perceptions in life and mostly his loud laughs with him. Hearing these statements, My Buddy began to look and say “Thank you TOL” with a smile on his face.

Me was overwhelmed with their reactions. He realized that, Me should not be selfish. Sacrificing doesn’t always result to loneliness; it could also make anyone happier than they are expecting to be.

Time goes by, My Girl and My Buddy became happy being together. My Girl and Me became more closer and sweeter. My Buddy came back to the one Me knows best. And the happiest thing happened with these three, is that their smiles came back on their faces.



Smiles are the signs of everlasting friendship.



“Sacrificing doesn’t always result to loneliness; it could also make anyone happier than they are expecting to be.” :)